Networking for Beginners

How to Get Through It and Get Something Out of It, Even if You Kinda Hate It

So... networking.

Maybe just reading that word makes your stomach drop a little. Or maybe it sounds like something adults in suits do at awkward conferences with too many coffee breaks and not enough snacks.

But here’s the truth: networking isn’t about being impressive or saying the perfect thing. It’s about making connections with real people who can help you learn, grow, and figure out what’s next—and maybe even open a few unexpected doors along the way.

And yes, you can absolutely do this—even if you're introverted, unsure, or still figuring out your path!

Let’s break it down, real-talk style.

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What Even Is Networking?

Think of it like this: networking is just meeting people and having conversations that matter.

It's asking a teacher how they chose their major. DM’ing someone you admire with a thoughtful question. Volunteering somewhere and actually talking to the adults around you. It’s less “business card exchange” and more “build your crew.”

You’re not selling yourself. You’re exploring. You’re learning from people who’ve been where you are and can help you level up—without the pressure to have it all figured out.

You’ve probably already been networking without realizing it. Every time you:

  • Ask a family friend about their job

  • Get advice from a youth leader

  • Meet someone cool at camp or a volunteer gig

That’s networking. You’re already doing it. Now we’re just going to get more intentional about it.

Why Start Now?

You might be thinking, “Can’t I wait till after college?”

Totally. But here’s why starting now is actually your secret weapon:

  • You have time to mess up. Seriously. You can stumble, fumble, and still be fine. Practicing early means you’ll be way more confident when it actually counts.

  • The ripple effect is real. One conversation now can lead to a summer job. That job could lead to a mentor. That mentor could connect you to someone doing your dream thing.

  • People want to help you. You’re not expected to be perfect. Most adults love sharing what they know—especially with someone who’s curious and respectful.

  • This is how careers actually happen. Jobs don’t just come from applying online. They come from relationships. The earlier you build those, the more options you’ll have later.

But What If Talking to People Freaks Me Out?

We get it. Meeting new people—especially professionals—can feel terrifying.

Here’s how to deal:

You're not weird for feeling nervous.

Pretty much everyone feels this way, especially at first. The trick is to start small and keep showing up.

Reframe it in your head.

Don’t think: “I have to impress this person.” Think: “I’m here to learn and be real.”

Start with people you already know.

Your network starts with your world—family, teachers, youth leaders, coaches. Ask questions. Practice being curious. These low-pressure conversations build skills fast.

Prep your “intro.”

Write and practice a short version of: who you are, what you’re interested in, and what you’re exploring. It could be something like:

“Hey, I’m Jamie. I’m a senior in high school, and I’m really interested in marketing and storytelling. I’m trying to figure out what paths are out there that don’t involve sitting in lectures for four years straight.”

Boom. You're ready.

Where to Network (Even If You Don’t Go to Fancy Events)

You don’t need to live on LinkedIn or attend formal conferences to build a legit network. Here are easy places to start:

👩‍🏫 Everyday People

  • Teachers who geek out about what they teach

  • Coaches or youth pastors who know people in the community

  • Your friend's mom who runs a business

  • The person you job shadowed or volunteered with

🧑‍💻 Online Spaces (Used Smartly)

  • LinkedIn (yes, even for high school students): Make a profile, add a clean photo, write a short intro, and connect with people you know.

  • Instagram/TikTok (Professional Side): Follow creators or small business owners doing stuff you’re curious about. Comment thoughtfully, ask a question.

  • Discord, forums, online communities: Join ones that focus on industries you care about—coding, design, ministry, social impact, whatever.

Just remember: Being online isn’t enough. You’ve got to actually engage.

🏙️ Local Events

  • Career fairs, church events, guest speakers at your school

  • Volunteering for something you care about (real connections happen when you're serving alongside people)

  • Informational interviews (aka, ask someone if you can chat for 15-20 minutes about their career—people love this more than you’d think)

What Do You Even Say?

Great question. Conversations are where the magic happens. And you don’t need a script—you need a mindset.

Start with curiosity.

People love to talk about their journey. Ask open-ended questions like:

  • “How did you get into your field?”

  • “What do you love about your job?”

  • “What advice would you give someone just starting out?”


Don’t fake it.

Be yourself. If you’re not into suits or corporate lingo, don’t pretend to be. Speak with respect, but stay true to your style.

Practice active listening.

This means: really listening instead of thinking about what to say next. Nod. React. Ask follow-ups. People remember how you made them feel, not just what you said.

You can bring something too.

Yes—even if you’re 17 and still figuring it all out. You bring a fresh perspective. You know what Gen Z cares about. You might be tech-savvy or creative or just a great listener. That stuff matters.

Following Up Without Being Awkward

Okay, so you had the conversation. Now what?

Send a quick thank-you.

Text, email, or message them on LinkedIn. Doesn’t have to be fancy—just genuine.

“Hey, thanks again for taking the time to talk with me. I really appreciated hearing about your path and how you got into social impact work. I’m excited to look into some of the things you recommended.”

Stay in touch (gently).

You don’t need to message every month. But if something reminds you of them—send it. If you apply their advice—let them know.

You’re building a relationship, not just checking a box.

You Have Value Right Now

You don’t have to wait until you have a degree or job title to start connecting. You’re already someone with ideas, energy, and something to offer.

You bring:

  • A fresh outlook

  • The questions no one else is asking

  • Your own story and passion

  • A willingness to learn

That’s not “nothing.” That’s a lot.

So start now. Reach out. Ask the question. Join the conversation. You’re not behind. You’re building.

TL;DR: Networking Doesn’t Have to Be Weird

  • It’s just people helping people.

  • You already have a network—build on it.

  • Start small. Be curious. Stay real.

  • Follow up like a human.

  • You’re not “too young” to bring value.

This whole journey? It's not about trying to impress people. It's about showing up as you are, learning as you go, and building something real.

So take the first step. Send that message. Say hi at that event. Ask the question.

You're not just figuring out your future—you’re finding your people along the way.

Let’s do this.